Posts tagged ‘dating’

April 25, 2008

The Question Again: Who is the Perfect Person for You?

While I was out for appetizers and drinks with some folks from work, the question that those of us who are single get popped up:

“Who is the perfect person for you?”

This is a difficult question to answer for numerous reasons.

First, define perfect. If I am still single, it might be because there is no perfect and I am unwilling to compromise (at this point).

Without the cynicism, I know one quality would be someone with a sense of astonishment for life. I don’t want to be with someone who goes through their days with a ho-hum, kind of bored, just grinding through life attitude.

That’s just one quality. Of course, then there are the physical attributes. Factor in all these high expectations, and you see why I am single after all of these years.

Maybe next time I am asked this question I’ll say, “I want someone as good as me.”

April 17, 2008

When is it hot vs creepy?

A woman I work with said something both insightful and funny.

To paraphrase her, she said something to the effect, “if the person is attractive, it’s not creepy.”

Her example was getting flowers at work.

The image crystallized in our minds. We laughed.

This could be misconstrued as a jab at people who are not attractive, but there was an underlying truth to the point.

If a stranger, or someone you don’t know well, makes an advance into your world, you size it up.

Perhaps unfairly, attractive people can get away with things that other people can’t without inducing a sense of creepiness.

April 14, 2008

Facebook is Trying Harder Than My Mother to Get Me Married

I think my mother is working in cahoots with Facebook in her attempt to get me married and bang out a few kids.

Every page I go, I get ads like these:

Facebook personals ad

Facebook personals ad

February 29, 2008

Women My Age Are Too Old For Me

I have my 20th high school reunion in September. (Yea, I don’t look that old – it’s the facial cream.)

It’s going to be very weird going and seeing people twenty years later: the people I never talked to, the people who got really fat or bald or look really old.

But the weirdest thing of all is that it’ll be the first time I have been around the people I went to high school with wherein the women are now too old for me.

Sure, when I was 16, another 16 year old seemed like a good choice.

But at the age of 37, one of the many double-standards that favor men has become obvious: the women my age are too old for me.

I’m 37 and I still don’t know if I want kids. As far as I’m concerned, I have another five years to figure that out, maybe even more.

How many women have the luxury of being undecided at 37?

Also, if I date a 35 year old who wants kids, she is going to pressure me to move things along very fast.

That’s why I’ve come to the conclusion that for me, the perfect age is somewhere between 26 and 31, give or take a few years. This age bracket will remain my target for the next 25 years, which leads me to my next point…

There is, of course, the observation that it is far more common to see an older man with a much younger (and more attractive) woman than it is to see the opposite.

Exhibit A: Larry King and wife Shawn Southwick:

Sugar Daddy

So, are these young women at all attracted to the older guys? Because I would never want to have sex with the female version of Larry King.

When I think about how many more years I have before I really need to think about kids, men like Larry become role models.

(I’m adding this note based on the criticism I’ve gotten – please note that this was filed under “satire”).

February 17, 2008

LA Women

I had lunch with a famous music producer who will remain anonymous.

He was describing LA women to me and said, “Whenever I’m having sex with a woman here, I’m convinced they are thinking to themselves, ‘I wonder if I could be having sex with someone more important’.”

Is it really like that?